“Why does he talk to me like that? I was hurt by what he said today. “Or “He doesn’t speak, but his attitude and behavior towards me seem to ignore me. It breaks my pride. “
Are you mentally vulnerable? I’m mentally weak. I respond intensely to small stimuli and get hurt. So it was hard to live. I wanted to be a mentally strong person.
Being mentally strong is to accept reality and cope well with anything unexpected. On the contrary, a mentally weak person is easily hurt by a bit of stimulus and swayed by the situation. There’s a saying, “A glass-mentality.” It refers to an easily influenced state of mind that breaks like glass when severe.
If your mind is weak, you collapse quickly and get hurt soon. It is also a kind of snowflake mentality to be absorbed in some action when something wrong happens. Suddenly binge-eating, impulse buying, drinking, playing games, different obsession, etc.
These are the ways to recognize my weakness and then try to be strong.
1. Get out of self-hatred
A person with a weak mind is likely to fall into self-pity and self-hatred by turning the arrow of criticism to himself, thinking that it is because he is incompetent. It is just a waste of time killing yourself.
2. Recognize your value
Don’t think too deeply about what others think of you. I say and act with determination that I will take responsibility for my choice. Rather than begging for other people’s recognition, let’s become a person who I can admit it
3. Focus on the process rather than the results
People with weak minds are more likely to lose their persistence. It’s easy to be disappointed if you take a little effort and hope for an immediate and significant result. Keep in mind that time, patience, and practice produce results.
4. Make an effort to escape the comfort zone
The more you practice new challenges and changes, the more confidence you have. You constantly acquire new knowledge and skills and become a person who keeps up with the times.
In fact, being hurt means that I already had a wound inside me. Weakness, lack of something, inferiority, alienation, memories of rejection, abandonment experiences, and someone’s words and actions revealed it. I get hurt again when I think the wound inside me is touched. If you think about it carefully, what the person says is not the problem but the fundamental cause of my inferiority complex.
It is like preparing to be hurt at any time.
The person who is hurt gets to have a thorn to pay it back. The thorn goes towards the world. It scratches the others, and the thorn hurts me again. That’s why we need to reflect on ourselves. To live an authentic life with a healthy and strong mentality, we have to abandon ourselves who are easily hurt and pull out the thorn in our hearts.
I keep a diary after a day and meditate. I look back on my feelings and thoughts throughout the day. I can see why I got hurt by something, what words hurt me, and how I felt hurt by what happened in the past. And I accept that I have a lot of hurts in my mind. I realize that I have many thorns as well. And I let go of them.
There is no soul without wounds. We all live with our injuries. If you admit your weakness and empty it, you will be free from heartbreak. You can find a sense of true peace within you. When you throw it away, your position changes from that you got hurt to that I hurt others. I start to realize that I hurt people with my words and attitude. Through more significant consciousness, I become mature. and better. Then, things happen, but getting caught up in the situation doesn’t happen quickly. A strong mentality naturally becomes yours. Thank you for your reading it. 🍁🌹🥀🌺
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